Tough title, I know right?
Unfortunately the church is not free from the harsh –isms of this world.
Sexism being the one everyone seems to be VERY aware of these days, racism still ends up being relatively untouched. By both the teaching from the front and the cultural behaviour in the church community.
I’ve grown up in a mostly middle-class white neighbourhood and church in Germany. The amount of times my white mother was asked, whether her children were adopted until people met my black father is astounding.
At the same time, I see a huge divide in the way churches manage their services, community outreach and yes – their dating culture, depending which group “dominates” the church as a whole.
There are obviously many positive aspects in cultural differences; I’d call myself a personal ambassador for inclusion. However, when it comes to the church, in this case typical UK churches, we have some catching up to do.
If you feel discriminated against, it’s time to find your voice and approach your leadership or someone you trust in your community. You can bring up the topic in a loving conversation. Make sure you have the positive mindset of wanting to change things for the better and not to just complain.
The day-to-day racism we see every day is deeply embedded in our society and usually happens unconsciously. Hence you need to start calling it out. Talk to your friends, raise the issue when it comes up. No more jokes, no more exclusion. We are called to make a difference in this world and that starts with ACKNOWLEDGING PRIVILEGE.
So yes, that means you!
Whether you like it or not.
If you want to see some change, you need to push for it yourself.
God is in this with you, and so are we!
Breaking down cultural barriers automatically translates into all aspects of society, also dating and singleness. It brings people together who would usually never speak with each other, it helps understand differences and most importantly – it opens the channel for love and companionship.
Let’s make this happen!