Have you ever noticed that when someone in the church asks if you’ve got a boyfriend/ girlfriend, the response is often something like ‘No I’m still waiting for the right one’?
Why do we call it waiting?
According to the Oxford English Dictionary (sorry to be such a nerd), ‘waiting’ is:
“the action of staying where one is or delaying action until a particular time or event”.
So essentially, when we say we are waiting in our singleness, we are in fact never moving forward, or even delaying action in our lives simply because we don’t have a life partner.
I truly believe that this was not God’s purpose for us in this period of singleness.
There’s so many examples of people that have or did not waited in their singleness: Mother Theresa, the apostle Paul, or even Mike Pilavachi (if you’re a Soul Survivor attender).
Jesus was single too.
If you’re like me, who has dreamed of finding ‘the one’ for many years, it can be difficult to not feel like your life is on hold until this happens. I guess that there’s many actions you could delay until you meet them e.g. buying a house, writing an album, fostering children or taking a trip to Disneyland.
But what if I told you that those things could be just as great now?
I’m sure you’re aware of Philippians 4v13: “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me”.
God provides us the strength we need and that includes when we are single!
Buy a house (or you know, rent), go ride the Peter Pan ride at Disneyland, buy the Greatest Showman album, start your bucket list now!
Most importantly, don’t delay your life of ministry:
Don’t wait to have conversations with your friends about Jesus.
Don’t wait for a personal groupie before joining the worship band.
Don’t wait before learning to preach, host or study the Bible.
Don’t wait to come to an Honoured event (there will be less point once you’re taken).
From what I have gathered from the many people in my life that are in relationships, if anything, life gets more complicated after marriage!
So, let’s take this time of singleness to do the things God’s calling us to do; He’ll have more plans when someone comes along!
Last year, I took a trip to Scotland alone for the week; a trip I always imagined doing with someone else. And yes, there were times that felt a little lonely and strange, but there were also many times I felt exhilarated. I was proud of my achievements (particularly at the top of the Cairngorms) because I showed myself that I don’t need a man as much as I think!
What are you waiting for?