Ben Stuart’s “Single. Dating. Engaged. Married” provides us with a completely new, positive outlook on singleness whilst being honest, funny and an inviting account of a person’s navigation of singleness and dating.
Each section contains a case study, usually from Ben’s life and experience of dating or a Biblical example. These are both interesting (to the curious) and helpful in their relatability.
Not only does Ben explore how to date, but first and foremost, who to date. He talks on how we should be looking for people that glorify God and that would help us to do the same. He also speaks on how we can better ourselves for our future spouse.
But most of all, I love his founding theory that the process of dating (from singleness to marriage) is a “modern process of evaluation”: evaluating whether we want to spend the rest of our lives with this person. Perhaps controversially, Ben also suggests that the “stages” we have in dating such as “Official” or even “boyfriend or girlfriend” are just labels created to define different parts of this one evaluation.
If all of that wasn’t enough, Ben even touches on the not-often-mentioned topic of sex. He delves into our culture’s attitude to sex and how that compares with God’s plan for us. A definite page-turner.
I would highly recommend this book to anyone a little lost in their singleness or losing hope in the dating game… and there’s always the second half of the book if you’re already in a relationship!